: Time to establish some boundaries! Is your work set up such that it
: necessarily advertises your presence to your neighbor (e.g. working in
: garage with door open?) If you can safely work without advertising it,
: it's time to do so! It's also time to tell your neighbor, nicely but
: honestly, that you are not available to visit at this time, but that you
: will call him when you are available (and give him an estimate: "I
: can't visit now, but I'll call you in two hours when I'm done" or
: whatever.) State firmly that it is not safe for his little kid to be in
: your work area, so they will both need to leave now, but that you will
: call him when you are available. Then go back to sanding, ignoring him. If
: they're still standing there after a few minutes, state again that it is
: not safe for them to be in your work area without respirators, and that
: for their own safety, they need to go home, shower and change clothes
: because of the epoxy dust, and that you will call him later (for the
: greatest effect, do not remove your respirator when talking with him).

: Be clear and firm! Don't be apologetic or defensive. Just stay "on
: message--this is not a good time to visit." And-- follow through with
: your promise to call him/stop over when you're done. At that time, explain
: nicely and politely why you aren't available to chat when you're working
: on the boat (e.g. need to concentrate, it's your time to unwind from work
: and you want to be alone, epoxy is expensive and time-critical, and that
: is not safe for young children, etc.) I bet that if the child's mother
: hears all about the dangers of breathing epoxy dust and about how the kid
: nearly poisoned herself with the epoxy stir stick one time when Daddy
: brought her over, SHE will put a stop to it. Tell her that whenever the
: kid has been exposed to sanding dust, that the kid needs to shower and
: change into clean clothes right away, and that what she had been wearing
: needs to be washed.

: Being "neighborly" doesn't mean that you need to be a doormat!
: Being ready & willing to drop what you're doing to respond to an
: emergency is one thing.... but this is another. It will probably take a
: few times before he gets the idea.... but don't cave in! Even if you are
: at a point where you could take a break, say, "I'm not available to
: visit right now. Would it be okay for me to stop by in 15 minutes when I'm
: through with what I'm doing?" (You're trying to break him of the
: habit of dropping in unannounced and uninvited. While you're trying to
: break him of the habit of just dropping over *whenever* it may be better
: for you to offer to call him or go to HIS place when you're finished,
: rather than inviting him to come by later. If you go to his place, you've
: got control of when you take leave of him-- it's generally easier to go
: home than to get someone to go home).

: Julie Kanarr

Julie is right on Robb.

I am basically the neighborhood fix-it man around here and I used to have a difficult time getting anything done for myself. Every time I opened the garage door, or just got out of my car from work, they would walk over or call and ask for some sort of favor. I just got to the point where I tell them, Yeh, I'd love to help you, but, I'm on a schedule here and simply must get some work done on this. But I'll come over when I clean up, or call when I get done. And definitely follow through. Don't stop being the good neighbor!!! There are simply too few of them around any more. I have made a few here because I DO help them and now they have gotten the idea and help me or others.

As for the epoxy cloud problem, that is where You ABSOLUTELY have to be firm. Be polite and tell them you are concerned for their safety, especially the little one. That IS why you are wearing the mask and long sleeves. ( I hope ) I have told folks that I can not continue with them standing there, and I HAVE to get this done. Sometimes feelings must suffer so that health will Not!! When you tell them later as Julie mentions, they usually understand and will be more careful.

My neighbors have developed a habit of waiting till they see me taking a break to come over, and If I don't have either coffee or a soda, they will often bring one, and we talk. Basically, you just have to train some people. ???

Hope all this stuff helps. I know what a pain in the arse it can be at times.

Rehd